Dating Advice from Emma Watson

Emma Watson

The beautiful Emma Watson recently helped clarify some dating advice for feminists with Facebook Q&A:

“I love having the door open for me,” Watson said. “I love being taken to dinner…but I think the key is would you mind if I open the door for you?” she rhetorically asked her male interviewer. “I’m polite and you’re polite and we’re making the world a better place with this small kind polite gesture.”

Watson put her belief in equality into action by turning the traditional gender role tables on a date.

“I actually took a man out for dinner,” Watson continued. “And I chose the restaurant and I offered to pay and it was really awkward and uncomfortable. . .but the cool thing about it was we were both willing to have the conversation about why it was awkward or why it was uncomfortable. We were able to have this dialogue. “

“I think the key is that chivalry should be consensual,” Watson added. “Both parties should be feeling good about that. I think it’s a problem when people expect things to be a certain way to follow a certain status quo and it’s awkward and it’s messy and we’re in transition right now. And everyone doesn’t really feel like they know what to do—but it’s OK. Just be willing to have that awkward conversation. It does come out OK in the end.”

– Excerpt from HelloGiggles.

I absolutely love this! Chivalry and feminism can co-exist. :)

See the entire video here.

Apartment Hunting in SF: Finding a needle in the hay stack

After almost 3 months of sifting through hundreds of scams on Craigslist, I finally found a room within my tiny tiny price range!  To anyone who is trying to find a place to live here in the city, I feel you. I empathize with you. Finding a room in the city is stupid difficult. I have honestly gone through more “roommate” interviews than job interviews. And let me tell you something, I’ve learned to hate “roommate” interviews with a deep passion. One of the worst was probably when I was invited with all of the other potential “roommates” to hang out with the current tenants all at once. It felt like I was rushing for a sorority. I felt like I had to do handstands and just to get the tenants’s attention. Ugh. The worst part was that I recognized the same people at the other apartment interviews within the neighborhood. The post high school popularity contest is essentially apartment hunting in San Francisco. 

But finally, I am ecstatic that my apartment hunting is finally OVER. I have a small little 10X10 square to call my own. For all of you who are still searching, I’ve got some words of advice.

Tips on finding a SF apartment

(*Note: This may only apply to people who have a budget under $1200. If you are big ballin’, you probably don’t need this.)

  1. Set a Craigslist email alert. You can set your preferences to your budget, neighborhood, pictures only, etc. This way you will be alerted right away once new listings come out. This is important because you want to email postings within hours of the post. Or else, your email will be lost amongst a sea of emails from people just as desperate as you.
  2. Have a template ready. Very similar to cover letters. Nobody’s got time to write a new email over and over again. So just have a few paragraphs saying who you are meaning: name, occupation, weekly schedule, favorite bands, tv shows, hobbies. Extra Credit: show a sense of humor.
  3. Include social media. The best way to show that you are not an Axe Murderer is having a real Facebook, Linkedin and Instagram.
  4. Do Not Register for Roomster. It is a scam. Even though there are many seemingly real ads on Craigslist describing the roommates saying they like beer and to hangout. Most of them are still scams. They will text you saying that they want to make sure you are not a robot and send you a link to the Roomster website. Don’t do it. I wish someone told me this earlier :(
  5. This is a no-brainer. But don’t waste your time on anyone who says they are out of town. I had a guy who told me that he was in an accident and had to move to Texas. He wanted me to send him a money order. Puh-lease. He even sent me a real SF address.
  6. My smart friend figured this one out. Don’t send your phone number via email. If you want someone to have your number, type it out as one, two, three, four as oppose to 1, 2, 3, 4. Some of the posts are linked to computers. They electronically read your number and spam you via text.
  7. Don’t give up! I understand how hard and frustrating it can be to find a place to call home in this tiny city. But don’t settle for less. A home is where you find solace after a long day of work. It’s not just going to be a room, it’s going to be your home.

Goodluck!!

My neighborhood. :)

My neighborhood. (Not my photo though!)

Self-awareness

This new year has brought so many changes into my life. Let’s see, my poor baby car broke down on the I-280. Then got a new Toyota Corolla within two weeks. Quit my babysitting job in Santa Cruz. Got a job at a restaurant and a part time gig at a start-up in SF the following week. Quit my sales associate position at Madewell (realized that working 3 jobs just wasn’t going to work out). Fast forward, one week later, got offered a full-time position at the start up. Then quit my job at the restaurant.

Now, here I am. A month later.

Trying to keep up with so many changes in my life has made me neglect my personal health, relationships and overall sense of well-being. I think I lost at least 5 pounds within the last 2 months.  My jeans are falling off my hips. My skin is breaking and drying out. My cortisol level is at a constant high.

Finally just the other day, I realized. It’s okay. Calm your sh*t. What is the point of being consistently stressed? Alright, so you made a couple of mistakes at work. But, it’s not the end of the world. Breathe. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Worse things have happened and will happen. Murphy’s law: Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. So, no need to fret over the smaller stuff. You can’t afford to. Unless, you want to wind up having an emotional breakdown.

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Enjoyed my one day off at the Baker Beach today. Time well spent catching my Vitamin D.

So dear self. Please. Lighten up. Don’t remember to look around you and see the bigger picture.

Les Sins (Toro y Moi)

If you’re around the San Francisco/Bay area tonight and looking for good music, Les Sins, Toro y Moi’s DJ moniker, is performing with Nosaj Thing at 1015 Folsom tonight. Things should get funky.

http://www.1015.com/events/1015/111314

Graduate Struggles

As I’ve mentioned earlier in another post, that I recently finished my undergraduate studies. Like any other graduate who majored in something that does not translate directly into a job description, I’ve been having a hard time defining my career. People say that job searching is equivalent to having a full-time job. This is the awful truth. My emotions rides a roller coaster of highs and lows going through the process.

These are the thoughts I come across while job hunting, not necessarily in sequential order.

1. Alright, let’s start this thing! Can’t live with the parents forever. Got my coffee in hand! Bring it!

2. [Opens Linkedin, Indeed, Aggie Job Link, Craigslist, Fast Company all at once.]

3. [Looks at Administrative Assistant positions.] Holy sh*t, requires 5 years of experience?! Are you kidding me?

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4. Data Entry position?? A monkey could do this…

5. I wonder where all my applications, resumes, and cover letters go. Seems like its going into a black hole because I don’t hear any responses.

6. Alright, this is depressing. Need some pump up music. [Cue Taylor Swift’s Shake it off.]

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7. Let’s read some inspiring stories from successful entrepreneurs on Fast Company. INSPIRE ME.

8. I have reached my maximum capacity of tabs I’m allowed to open. Let’s actually start applying to some jobs! YEAH! FUN!

9. I wish I did more during college. Maybe I should have studied something different. WHY DIDN’T I DO ENGINEERING OR COMPUTER SCIENCE LIKE MY ASIAN PARENTS WOULD’VE WANTED ME TO.

10. No, I’m okay. I know I am a smart, confident young woman. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. Can I do this? I can do this.

From the hilarious Mindy Kaling’s “Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?”

“You know those books called From Homeless to Harvard or From Jail to Yale or From Skid Row to Skidmore? They’re these inspirational memoirs about young people overcoming the bleakest of circumstances and going on to succeed in college. I was worried I would be the subject of a reverse kind of book: a pathetic tale of a girl with a great education who frittered it away watching syndicated Law & Order episodes on a sofa in Brooklyn. From Dartmouth to Dickhead it would be called. I need a job.”

My thoughts exactly. But hey, look at how Mindy turned out!

The pursuit continues.

The pursuit continues.

Tune Tuesday: Alt-J

Alt-J just came out with their second album, “This is all yours”. Needless to say, this has been playing ceaselessly on my Spotify the past two weeks. Have you ever had an album or just a song that sticks with you? Whenever, you hear that song or album, it brings you back to those exact feelings that you felt when you first heard the song for the first time. That was Alt-J’s first album, “An Awesome Wave” for me. It brings me back to my spring quarter of my Junior year of college. It’s funny how music can evoke emotions in such a startling way. Alt-J-2-620x400

Moody Mondays

“It was one of the best days of my life, a day during which I lived my life and didn’t think about my life at all.”

– Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

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Moody Mondays: Inspiration

Here’s some inspiration for the week:

monday quotesSetting my intentions for the week:

1. Regularize my sleep schedule. No surfing on BuzzFeed at 2 AM in the morning.

2. “Workout” everyday this entire week. “Working out” doesn’t have to be 5 sets of hill repeats. Just get out of the house and move for 30 minutes or more!

3. Blog on the weekdays. The only thing that has been holding me back is my need for perfection with every post (which prevents me from ever publishing any).

Happy #NationalCoffeeDay! Go out and enjoy a cup of Jo’! 

Fall Ombre

Let’s talk hair. I’ve had a tempestuous relationship for the past ten years with my hair. Throughout elementary school, I had typical thick, straight, silky hair that most Asians have. However, starting middle school, around when puberty hit, shit hit the fan. My hair became this giant ball of frizz that could not be tamed. A pleasant little addition to acne and overall state of middle school awkwardness. [Sarcasm] Haha. I desperately tried every product my mother allowed me to buy and every technique to fix it. Sadly, to no avail. In high school, I heard a rumor that some girl was telling everyone that my hair looked like pubes. Ouch! Haha

Fast forward to present day, my hair texture has changed drastically since then. I still have thick hair but no frizz. A hair dresser once told me that your hair texture naturally changes every 5-10 years. So, there’s always hope! Now that I finally have hair that I don’t have to straighten on the daily, I want to try something new.

I want to cut my hair shorter for a more sophisticated look (something that screams college graduate). But also, color! I love seeing girls with ombre hair. I feel like it’s a pretty safe look that anyone can pull off! I’ve collected a bunch of pictures to show my stylist (thanks Pinterest!). What do you guys think?

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Love this burnt autumn color

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SOSUPERSAM sporting ombre

Now what?

I’ve officially graduated with a degree in Nutrition Science from University of California, Davis!

Now, I am at my parents’ home and am paralyzed with decisions. Decisions, decisions, decisions. I feel as if I can do anything and everything I want. However, taking insight from Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project, I can do anything I want, but I can’t do everything I want. This makes the whole decision making on the next chapter of my life astoundingly difficult.

However, then, I am stuck in this arrival fallacy, believing that when I arrive at a certain destination, a certain point in my life, I will finally be happy. Gretchen Rubin realized that “the days go slow but the years go fast” before writing her book. I try to keep this in mind when feeling stuck. Thinking back on the four years of college, I wish I did not complain about the midterms and lab reports. Those four years were four of the best years of my life spent with amazing people in a small but charming little town called Davis.

Here’s to making the next four years just as amazing. :)

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